Venus Retrograde

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Venus Retrograde 2017

Natal Venus Retrograde

Natal Venus retrograde suggests you have some difficulty in giving and receiving love and affection. You may experience sadness in love or have to endure hardship or delay. Lack of self-love, social anxiety, shyness and even financial hardship are associated with Venus retrograde in your birth chart.

Often these challenges are a result of past life relationship issues. Due to the laws of karma, if you caused suffering or hardship to a lover in an earlier life, you shall experience something similar yourself during this life. Venus retrograde acts like Mars so perhaps you hurt someone you loved. Maybe you had an affair, walked out when they needed you most, or physically injured them.

Whatever happened in past romances, you come into this life with those bad memories etched in your soul. You probably don’t recognize them as memories but as déjà vu or unexplained guilt. Especially when young, there can be a repeating theme of challenging events related to your past.

Sadness and disappointment may come from unrequited love, forced marriage, sexual abuse, mental illness or physical disability. Learning to love yourself is critical in working through your Venus in retrograde issues. Other signs of natal Venus retrograde are poor personal hygiene and not caring about how you look.

Self love can start with beautifying your physical appearance. Using fashion, cosmetics and beauty treatments can greatly improve your self-love, therefore making you more lovable. However, natal Venus retrograde can also show as excessive use of makeup and jewelry or even disfigurement from cosmetic surgery.

The aim of Venus retrograde in your natal chart is to perfect those areas of your love life which once let you down. As your relationship skills improve with experience, your karmic debt will be repaid and you start to enjoy more loving relationships.

Venus Retrograde Transit

Transiting Venus retrograde occurs once every 19 months for a total of six weeks (42 days). This means Venus is retrograde only 7% of the time, the least amount of any planet. The next closest is Mars retrograde at 9% then Mercury retrograde at 19%. Therefore, Venus retrograde is the most strongly felt of all retrograde planets.

During Venus in retrograde your love life enters a fated period. Giving and receiving love and affection becomes more difficult. Old friends or lovers may reappear or you may relive past life experiences in order to sort out karmic issues. As Venus also rules money, it’s traditionally thought that Venus retrograde is not an ideal time for investing or buying luxury items.

Venus retrograde in transit is a time of introspection and reassessment. You will likely become interested in someone or something of value that would bring you pleasure. Destiny encounters are possible and you may actually come into contact with your soul mate. If so, you should experience a feeling of inevitability or familiarity. However, it is better to wait until Venus turns direct to make your move.

Use Venus retrogrades to improve how you feel about yourself, to love yourself more. Think about what really brings you pleasure. Find the reasons for problems in earlier or current relationships. This is where old lovers reappearing can help you clear away the past to make room for new relationships. Even reminiscing about old partners will help to remove your karmic baggage and lighten the load.

Venus Retrograde Dates
  • 2017, March 4 to April 15 —27° Pisces to 13° Aries
  • 2018, October 5 to November 16 — 25° Libra to 11° Scorpio
  • 2020, May 13 to June 25 — 21° Gemini to 5° Gemini

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  1. Dear Jamie,
    I was wondering this…Recently I met a person (romantic date), it was during Jupiter transit on my natal North Node in Scorpio (Sep 21, sharp conj at 21 degrees), on a business trip. Now this person has started to slow things down, being reluctant at the idea of a long-distance relation (same country, but very far away)…Do you think this may be due to Venus Rx (I met him in phase 1)? Will direct Venus, after the Nov 15th, possibly unblock the situation? (I am a Cap, Leo asc…and to make things easier, I also have my natal Venus in Scorpio, at 27 degrees, conjunct my natal NN)…Thanks, really xxx

  2. Hello,
    Please, could anyone here help me understand what happened 5 of october because I don’t know how to interpret those energies I had felt. Here is my case:

    I am Divine Femine Twin Flame. We are 4 months in separation, no contact. We aren’t in other relationships, both singles. We haven’t had sex yet. I am 10 years in celibacy. Because of sneaky behaviors and deception from my DM in the past, I have some big trust isues due to him, I was carying big fear of being betrayed. I was doing a lot of inner work during this 4 months to get to union and to be a better person but I couldn’t leave this fear of betrayal. I have had some negativity from time to time in me because of DM deception.

    On 5 october I was smoking weed and was planing doing meditation and calming. After weed I am allways very peacefull and sensitive to energies that I can easily recognise. Also after smoking I have only love to my DM and I feel it from DM. But 5 of october I felt some sort of negativity from my DM. I felt rejection. Suddenly I felt very unsecure and horny. I recognize this was my DM. The unsecurity was bigger and in my head I started saing “no, no, You cant’ You can’t its sacred union, you can’t” and then I felt huge sexual tension. It all began. I was feeling that DM has sex with someone else, I had that inner knowing but I couldn’t believe it. It was so unreal but I was feeling it. I was feeling huge sexual arousal and unsecurity at once. I was feeling strange sexual energy inside of my body. It was very weird, beautifull, great and ugly. I was feeling like I am having sex without my permision. It was like great cosmic orgasm that was given to me but I didn’t want to feel it, like it was given without my ask. After all I was feeling very happy and ugly at once. Like after huge unwanted orgasm from betrayal. Then the negativity flow was unstopable all night. I was very unstable sad and angry.

    The day after I was feeling ugly energy in my body all day. Strange and dirty energy that wasn’t mine and I want to shake it. I was in denial it could happen. All day my head was looping one thoughts: “Why? How could you, how could You, we were so close to union, all of that hard work is gone, union is gone. I didn’t want anymore DM, union and all of TF stuff for 3 days. I lost faith and block everything saing it isn’t for me. My heart was closed and I was very, very angry. Now I am much stable, but so confused.

    Please tell me, what was that? Was it new cosmic energy flowing into my sacral chacra and unblocking it? Energy that I couldn’t recognise so it scares me a lot and I overeacted it with ego and big feer based mind projection? Or it was my DM with someone else and I felt DM sexual energy? Deep down I know, that DM will never hurt me but it was so real experience. Deep in my heart i know that wee love eachother and we are keeping our bodies “clean”, I believe that we have this silent commitment but I am afraid, that it could be some sort of karmic lesson for us. Please help, it is so confusing and sad. I feel betrayed.

    Best wishes Johny N

    • What you were feeling is the energy of the other woman he had sex with. Also because you are connected to him on an energetic level you could feel his sexual arousal through him. It was not a “cosmic orgasm” or an energy unblocking your crown chakra unfortunately. Your fear of being betrayed by him was legitimate as he was probably already seeing her since you went no contact. He probably thought he no longer has any tie to you and began dating someone else which is totally normal. The male Twin flames are always more stupid and less spiritually developed than us. The same thing happened to me with mine dating someone else for 7 years.During this Venus retrograde he still wants to have telepathic sex with me on the astral level. I had a similar negative vibe ever since he started dating this new bitch. It’s simply your awareness of them fucking someone else.

    • I also made the decision to remain celibate since I couldn’t really find someone else since 6 years ago when my male twin flame abandoned me. I have only dated one person but it didn’t really work and I also have no desire to date since my last trauma. My sex drive was really low up until this Venus Retrograde when this moron (my tf) showed up in my dream and said he wanted to have sex which is horrible of him because he is still in that same relationship. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. He wants to continue being with this other person and still fuck me on the side just because we’re twin flames.

    • I am also about to be done with him for life. I am seriously considering the possiblity that he is just a narcissistic abuser and this was all a huge mistake. I don’t give a shit about twin flames anymore. The way I see it it’s his choice to be with someone else and it’s extremely controlling to not allow someone to date someone else because they are your “twin flame” and you have a claim over him. Men are generally huge sluts, promiscuous, non monogamous. It’s plain biology. Twin flames or not, this is another person we are speaking of and they can live their life however they want. In our case, it’s literally impossible to ever be together physically so for a while I settled for having this spiritual connection. I decided to content myself with that little since he showed no interest in me last time. Upon further reconsiderations, I may even let go of the telepathic connection and completely cut him off since this isn’t really headed anywhere, he clearly prefers the other person so I just decided to give him up and the twin flame relationship. I no longer look forward to union. I advise you to do the same. PLEASE don’t stay celibate just because you wait for this man who clearly doesn’t respect you or the connection. Start looking for someone else and be happy. Screw “twin flames”

    • Hun if you connect when you smoke weed which it does do that for many people then what you felt was your higher self telling you to wake up from the dream of something that probably will never happen. Twin Flames are very very rare and when you do find yours, trust me there will be no distance. Love yourself enough to know that when a man loves you, I mean truly loves you, he will move mountains for you.

      Forget the twin flame stuff. If it’s meant to be, I promise it will be instant and forever. Good luck and best wishes.

  3. So my birthday is April 2, 87. His bday is sept 4 83. We started chatting oct 6th online. And within a day had already decided we wanted to meet. We met on oct 12th in person and had such a strong connection. Everything was amazing for about 5 days and then all of a sudden he stopped flirting. Turned quiet. Says hes “stressed, burnt out, and busy.” The app we were chatting on showed he added a new photo the same day he grew cold. I asked him about it and he says it doesnt mean anything and that hes still into me but just keeps saying hes busy. I even asked if hes just using that as an excuse to gently blow me off and he says no. I have a weird feeling about it. Ive seen this pattern before and ive always been right but id really like to be wrong. He went from offering me a key to his place to just “busy and stressed and overwhelmed”. If hes legit then i dont want to miss out on this opportunity, but if im right then i dont want to waste my time.

  4. Jamie, On November 8th, Venus will be conjunct Spica. How long will conjunction last? Thanks!

    • Hi Margaret. Venus is currently retrograde at 29° Libra and stations direct November 16 at 25°14′ Libra.

      Spica is at 24°05′ Libra so Venus does not come back quite far enough to pass over this star. But Venus is within Spica’s suggested orb of 2°40′ from November 7 to 25

  5. I was told not to make any drastic appearance changes during Venus retrograde. I am hoping to cut my hair 11/16… during the shadow phase. Any suggestions?

    • Hi Mike. That really depends on your own chart. If Mercury is making a difficult aspect to something important in your chart then yes, it would be better to wait.

  6. I strongly suggest that you may benefit by going to your general practitioner and asking for a referral to a mental health practitioner. This suggestion is not said with malice and cones from a place of concern. Take care

  7. Hi Jamie,

    I was foolish enough to start a relationship during a venus retrograde on November 8, 2018. it ended shortly after venus went direct. It felt inevitable and really familiar. I felt like coming home. The nodes changed signs on 6th November 2018, into Cancer and Capricorn. He is Capricorn and I am Cancer. We are no longer in a relationship but we are in contact. I know we have karma to sort. Did that brief period sort out our karma or is there still more to come? He felt like a soulmate. Do relationships that end after venus turn direct ever resurrect or they die to never rekindle again? Is there no hope of restarting at any point again?

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