Venus in retrograde motion is supposed to mean that our love lives enter a fated period where we may relive past life experiences in order to sort out karmic issues. Old friends or lovers may reappear and there may be more difficulty in giving and receiving love and affection. As Venus also rules money, it’s traditionally thought that Venus retrograde is not an ideal time for investing or buying luxury items. To get a more accurate picture we must look in more detail to the aspects and fixed stars in relation to Venus, from when she enters the retrograde zone, to when she leaves. Venus retrograde is not as common as Mercury retrograde, and only last about six weeks every twenty months.
Venus Retrograde 2012 Dates
11 April – Venus enters retrograde zone at 7 Gemini.
15 May – Venus stationary retrograde at 23 Gemini.
27 June – Venus stationary direct at 7 Gemini.
31 July – Venus leaves retrograde zone at 23 Gemini.
Venus Enters Retrograde Zone
Venus is still travelling at her normal pace when she enters the retrograde zone on 11 April 2012. The aspects and fixed star will give us an indication of the overall vibe for the whole retrograde cycle. It does have a very karmic feel which fits nicely with the traditional concept of retrograde planets. This karmic feel comes from Venus conjunct the South Node of the Moon by a mere five minutes. Click on the thumbnail below to see the chart. This suggests that our love lives really will go through a period of reliving past love life experiences. The South Node also indicates that some of our more negative habits or attitudes about love and relationships will be brought to light, and that the more troubling aspects of our relationships will be highlighted.
For sure, it can also mean that we run into old friends and lovers again, from this life and past lives. Any new relationships formed during the next few months will likely be past life connections, we will get that feeling of having known them before. The aim of all this is to resolve painful karmic memories. This is because the other very tight aspect is Venus square Chiron, we are being forced to face our inner pain in relation to love, the pain of being dumped or humiliated by infidelity, or the karmic pain cause by doing this to others. Moon quincunx Venus tells of the emotional tension caused by the pain, within the family, and especially for the women affected, the wife, mothers, sisters and daughters.
Venus enters the retrograde zone, and will station direct on the fixed star Hyadum II in the Hyades star cluster. This supports the theme of exposing broken hearts, as Robson says it gives “tears, sudden events, violence…and contradictions of fortune“. Ebertin found that the Hyades can cause people to “exploit other human beings in quest of power“. Venus square Chiron means we are forced, through events and through relationships, to face the pain of the past. By doing so, the difficult work of healing the pain can begin, this is the nature of Chiron, wounding to heal.
Venus travels over some major fixed stars on her journey, between 7 and 24 degrees Gemini is the busiest past of the sky for fixed stars. We will only look at the brightest of these. The brightest of all in the region is the fixed star Aldebaran, in the eye of the Bull. Venus is conjunct Aldebaran for the first of three times on April 15. Around this date is a good time for lovin’, as Venus with this star is favorable for marriage. Venus passes over another very fortunate star for love on April 25. Venus conjunct the fixed star Rigel gives a “good and influential marriage especially if female“.
Mercury sextile Venus on May 3 and 4 is a great opportunity to express our feelings of love. Communication should be open and compassionate. However, with Venus on the fixed star Bellatrix in constellation Orion, being too friendly with others if already attached could lead to that Chiron pain. Venus with Bellatrix gives “Much suffering through love affairs owing to unrestrained feelings“. Mercury sextile Venus could lead to those unrestrained feeling of love. Financially though, this should be a good couple of days, as Bellatrix is associated with wealth and gives “Quick decision making, thoughts and plans being realized with energy, courage, fighting spirit, strategic talents, ability to organize, discrimination.” This star also reminds us to place more value of personal qualities when looking for a partner, Bellatrix is “Associated with marriage for money and honors followed by reverses“. These issues could be brought up now if they occurred in the past.
Venus Stationary Retrograde May 2012
Venus stations retrograde on 15 May 2012 at 23°59′ Gemini. Venus is conjunct the fixed star Alnilam, the star in the middle of Orion’s Belt. It will also leave the retrograde zone on this star. The theme of pain again comes up, as Venus with Alnilam gives “Trouble through love affairs, scandal, enemies among women“. But the Chiron theme means the outcome is healing. And we see this with the aspect in this chart, Venus trine Saturn. It’s not exciting or glamorous, but serious and sober. Saturn is our teacher, so we are learning about love and affection.
The trine to Saturn suggests progress in this next phase of the retrograde cycle, through to the direct station on June 27. More understanding, more commitment. Commitment to long term relationships seems very important here, that is the message from this aspect, and the fixed stars have been pointing to the pain resulting from infidelity. Saturn on the most fortunate of stars Spica, is “favorable for domestic matters“. The work on the pain and the hurt is not over, we can see this in the chart above with Mars opposite Chiron. Some difficult issues to deal with, confronting and involving some arguments or resentment. The path does lead to healing and transformation through open communication. This is shown by the grand trine with Mercury, Mars and Pluto
On May 27 Venus conjuncts Bellatrix for the second time, so we may revisit any of those painful issues again regarding affairs or love triangles from the past. It may also be that an old flame appears on the scene again. Venus conjunct Mercury on the 1st of June at 8 Gemini really puts the focus on communication in relationships. We will be able to fully express our affections with loving words. Interactions should be frank and open, and with a square from Mars approaching, there could be some heated moments.
On June 5 we do get Venus square Mars, feelings should be intense, with a mixture of love and hate, sexual passion and desire. There may be some conflict, but Venus on the fixed star Rigel is more supportive of love rather than hate, Venus on this star gives a “good and influential marriage especially if female“.
June 6 is a very special day with Sun conjunct Venus. Not just any old conjunction, this one is a rare transit of Venus, where Venus is seen as a black dot passing in front of the Sun. This is the last transit of Venus for over 100 years, Venus is retrograde, it comes just after the June 4 lunar eclipse, and is mentioned in the Cherokee Rattlesnake Prophecy. Sun conjunct Venus is the personification of love and beauty, love is definitely in the air today, more than at any other time. Meeting friends, spending time with lovers, and chatting up potential lovers are all favoured.
Venus is conjunct Aldebaran for the second time on June 16, “favourable for marriage“. Venus is slowing right down now, about to station direct, sextile Uranus. So Venus sextile Uranus is within one degree orb from June 18 to July 8. This is very fortunate and suggests major breakthroughs in those relationship issues which have been causing problems. It also means that finding a new lover is more likely, and that they will be stimulating, exotic or unusual, or that the relationships will be unusual in some way or really fun but not so enduring, more of a fling. The first exact sextile is on June 21.
Venus Stationary Direct June 2012
On June 27, Venus stations direct at 7°29′ Gemini on the fixed star Hyadum II, the same spot the journey started. Back then, Venus was conjunct the South Node and square Chiron. Now the only tight aspect is Venus quincunx Pluto. So we could say the pain at confronting the negative aspects of our relationships, and our own weaknesses in how we love has now peaked. This final phase is about adjusting to a new dynamic in relationships, the give and take, and then settling at a new power sharing arrangement. Venus is love, Pluto is transformation, the quincunx is an aspect of karmic readjustment. Our relationships and how we love each other and ourselves is evolving.
Venus turning direct comes very close to the first Uranus square Pluto aspect on June 24 as you can see in the thumbnail left. So this adjustment in relationships and how we love comes at a time of major and dramatic changes. It mean the big transformations are now so much more personal, and it very positive suggesting enlightenment, given that Venus ties into this via the sextile to Uranus. It helps us deal with great change in a compassionate and universally loving way.
Even though we are now on the home stretch in this Venus retrograde journey, phases three of three, we will continue to work on these issues well into next year. This is because Venus entered the shadow zone, and stationed direct at 7 degrees Gemini, and the lunar eclipse on 28 November 2012 is also at 7 degrees Gemini, and lunar eclipses do put a focus on our relationships.
From July 2 to 16, Mercury sextile Venus again opens up the communication channels in our relationships. We had this aspect back in early May before Venus had turned retrograde. Now, in the final direct phase, it gives a much longer than usual time for affectionate sharing of thoughts, and for the resolving of the tension which has been ongoing for some time now. This will likely climax around July 5 with Venus at 8 degrees Gemini sextile Uranus. Venus is at the midpoint of a trine from Mercury to Uranus. So Venus is the focal point of a minor grand trine, an aspect pattern which uncovers secrets, in this case through creative inspiration or flashes of insight. There is the possibility of unexpected news, new information which leads to higher awareness and breakthroughs.
From now on there are a few conjunctions of Venus to the fixed stars before the journey ends. July 9, Venus is conjunct Aldebaran, “favourable for marriage“. July 22 Venus conjunct Rigel ”good and influential marriage especially if female“. July 27 , Venus conjunct Bellatrix ”Much suffering through love affairs owing to unrestrained feelings“
Venus Leaves the Retrograde Zone
The journey ends on July 31 2012 with Venus leaving the retrograde zone at 24 Gemini, the same position at the retrograde station. The same star Alnilam with Venus gives ”Trouble through love affairs, scandal, enemies among women“. This has been the major theme running through all this story. It started with confronting the karmic pain, the deep wound in the soul memory of being abandoned, betrayed or rejected. Just like the retrograde station, Venus is trine Saturn meaning the end result is maturity and wisdom from having dealt seriously with the issues and any guilt or shame is lifted.
This time Saturn is on the other very fortunate star, Arcturus, “Popular, gifts and favors from friends, some false friends of own sex“. This false friends of own sex makes sense when the main theme has been the other woman or the other man, triangular relationships. This will be important again in the November 2012 Lunar Eclipse which is conjunct Lilith (triangular relationships and the other woman). It is also the focal point of a Yod aspect pattern to Venus and Pluto, intense power struggles in these complex relationships.
You can see in the chart left for Venus leaving the retrograde zone that Sun trine Uranus will bring higher self awareness and the confidence to express ourselves in a new and unique way, more open minded and experimental. The Sun is the focal point of a Yod aspect pattern. This means that the end to this Venus retrograde story entails a special mission, karmic in nature. It’s about our ego, it was hurt in love, or it has been bruised once we became aware of the pain we caused lovers in the past. The quincunx aspects (karmic readjustment) in this Yod go to Chiron and Pluto. Evolutionary healing, intense healing zeroing in on our very identity and sense of self.
So the journey is one of healing a broken heart. We all have this somewhere either now in time, or in the past. Venus retrograde in 2012 is intense, a transit of Venus, an eclipse, Uranus square Pluto, and all those major fixed fixed stars with an emphasis on love relationships. This final chart shows the end result, a more mature approach to loving, and the healing and transformation of the wounded ego.
Ahhhhhhh I am feeling everyone’s pain – - even to the point of working out an energy block in my heart chakra – sternum pain and all. My sun is in Taurus in the 7th house conjunct Venus, my mercury is in Taurus in my 7th house, my Venus is in Taurus AND my ascendant is in Libra. I’ve been cursing all my Venus almost every single day – - – but what I will say is this retrograde has brought me more enlightenment regarding who and what I want and has even evoked a heartfelt apology to my ex husband . . . looking forward to everything all the healing will bring . . .
So sorry everyone is having a difficult (more or less) love life during Venus RX which, thankfully, has now stationed. Sending good vibes to everyone for a better Love Life.
Two questions:
1.I am in desperate need of clothes. Can I go shopping this weekend and make good decisions now that Venus has stationed? and
2. My wedding anniversary is on the 4th of July…do the July 5th aspects mean anything in a good way? My natal Venus is 13 Cancer, natal Merc is 7 Cancer.
Any info you could share would be greatly appreciated. I am just learning all this and reading this site has been of great value and insight. Thank you.
Thanks for the good vibes – seems we all need them. Congrats on the anniversary! Hope you get your answers (and some new clothes).
Thanks, Diane. So sad to read of your boo-boo heart
So little else seems to matter when there is a pain in the heart. Saying a metta prayer for you, darlin’. Hang in. Namaste and Peace.
I seem to have lost the love of my life during this period. We last spoke on April 29. The relationship seems to have ended – he has not spoken to me since. Although there have been promises of visit and phone calls, none have come. I have asked for some resolution, closure, explanation. I’ve gotten a great big fat nothing! We’ve been together for 4 1/2 years. How does anyone just walk away with no communication? This has been very painful. I intended to spend the reat of my life with this man. I’m a Leo, he’s a Cancer…so we’ve had some struggles. But this has left me absolutely baffled and heartbroken.
I couldn’t help but gasp when I read your response. The same thing happened to me, except the last time we spoke was April 21 (and we were not together as long, but still extremely painful). I have been very focused on trying to heal and create closure on my own (very challenging), and have found comfort in the following ways: Bach Flower Essences, physical exercise, meditation, books on karma/reincarnation to understand why this happened, study astrological influence and the lessons associated with them, etc.
It is baffling why someone would do this, so I do not have an answer for you there. The secret, I guess, is to ultimately look within and stop trying to figure the other person out (again, very challenging!!!) and work on your own issues.
I wish you the best on your healing journey….
Thanks, Mary, for the suggestions. I have started walking daily and believe me, I pound that pavement! I will start to use your other suggestions as well. This has been painful…an emotional rollercoaster is an understatement. I can’t put effort into trying to figure him out anymore. I am using today’s date as the date to start on ME and to stop attempts at contacting him. It has been almost 2 months since we spoke and a full 3 weeks since his last email…promising to meet me. He’s had plenty of other big things going on in his life right now – but to completely avoid, ignore someone who is, in essence, breaking, is beyond me. A simple, “This isn’t working” would be better than nothing and I’ve told him as much (via email as he won’t talk to me). His communications skills are poor to begin with and he tends to run away from issues rather than facing them. But he’ll be 53 next month. Really? He’s a grown man behaving like a teenager and his lack of response is so foreign to me that I’m having a great deal of difficulty processing it all. We have both discussed our future together so I must have missed something somewhere. Trying not to dwell on it – but the pain is so overwhelming at times.
My best to you as you struggle to get through this rough period of time. Wish I could help you!
The fact that he is 53 and doing that just shows that some people do not learn certain lessons during the first Saturn cycle, or even the second, lol….
I call what I’m doing “Project Healing”
Doing everything I can and finding new ways all the time to nurture myself. It’s working…. Even last night I went to a Love and Fantasy 12 Step meeting, and heard some powerful words that gave me insight. i’m trying everything, showing the Universe I’m committed to getting better and learning from the process….
Hi Mary…I’m doing something similar to what you’re doing. Really concentrating on me now. I can’t make him better…lol! I feel bad for him – he’s going through a really rough time – but that aside, you just don’t treat others poorly, no matter how wrapped up in your own woes you may be. I’m continuing to journal, I also blog (that’s where I show the humourous side of this otherwise heart-wrenching situation). I can’t imagine he’s happy, but I have tried to reach out to him. I can be here in the event he does need me, but I can no longer put my efforts into him. Here’s to all of us moving forward. Hey, one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Someone will recognize that I’m a gem of a person!
Great job Diane and Mary! I moved houses the past weekend and it was liberating. I toughed it out and unpacked everything and organized everything within two days and that did me good. I threw out a lot of the old stuff that I no longer need but somehow was still holding onto. The moment I threw it all out was the moment I was setting myself free. I felt the urgent need to start afresh and throw out the past. Rid of the old and welcome the new – people, relationships and also me. I decided to shift on my focus and efforts on me, instead of on him. Like you said… this healing process might take a while, but we’ll get there. I do have my moments of tandrums as well, but I try to tell myself to calm down and don’t let it affect the positivity that I’m building up. I love this forum… when I feel despair I come here and read all the beautiful words and I feel better. Let’s look forward to us being healed very soon! xoxo~
Daisy and Diane,
you are both inspirational!
I pull a Tarot card every month for guidance…this month I pulled the “Fool” card….new beginnings, open my heart, etc etc….gotta love it!
Hi I also was surprised to read your post as I have been enduring an excruciating breakup.
After 3 1/2 years and talk of our future together, even while still confirming his love for me. Almost like the very next day left and has not communicated since May 5th via text message. Before that it was an event on March 31st when I saw him and he said we are not compatible after just the week b4 telling me he loved me. By rote apparently. I am trying not to wallow in this but it is very painful.
He is a Cancer and he is June 21, I know Cancer has been undergoing transformation but how is it decent to just drop out of somebodies life who trusts you. It’s like those stories of the men who go out for cigarettes and just never come back.
I hope you continue to weather your storms and remember “we are the ones we have been looking for” (thanks Marina)
My (ex)guy is also a Cancer (July 18) – and boy has he retreated into his shell. So many things are going wrong in his life right now. But he brought it on himself (poor decisions and trying to live like he’s 23 rather than almost 53) and I can only feel sorry for a grown man who has a history of running away from issues for so long. I am truly focusing on me, though I know the pain is still there. I am trying to move on without him rather than holding on to the hope that I have manifested.
Jennifer – it is NEVER decent to do what these guys have done to us. To love someone and gain their trust and plan a future and then simply disappear w/out a word is a very selfish act. Very juvenile. I am slowly coming to terms with this and am realizing that I deserve more (as do you!) and do not want a man-child. I want a real man with character and a backbone! I want to matter to someone and be a priority in their life. I want US to work together on US. The only way that will happen is for me to make myself stonger…and yes, to stop wallowing in that which has happened that I cannot change. I can only change ME…and I will. You can do it, too! The pain will subside onceu you change your focus. (I also have had to put notes on my phones – “DO NOT CALL HIM!” – and little daily affirmations are posted on the back of my front so that I see them as I leave my home for the day…sounds silly – but it works for me. Yes, I still hear songs that bring that tear to my eye. It’s only been a matter of weeks. It will get better! These “storms” will pass and brighter days are ahead!!!
I love your positivity Diane!
Thanks, Mary! Sometimes it’s a real effort! I went out with a friend last night (happy hour) and then decided to call an old boyfriend to meet us. He showed up and we laughed and reminisced for hours. I’m not looking for any romance at this point (break-up was too recent) – but he (the old boyfriend),without even realizing it, reminded me of my self-worth and that I am very deserving of happiness and a healthy relationship. We dated about 11-12 years ago – at that time in my life I don’t think I was really ready for a steady relationship. Too bad – because this guy is fantastic and he would have done anything for me (without being a whimpy guy). Who knows if/where it will lead but we do have another get together planned for next weekend. After so much time, we picked up our conversation like it was yesterday. Yes, he knows about this recent break up, and he knows I do not want to jump back in to anything – but I am also not going to shut myself off from the world and from opportunities.
wow that sounds great – you go girl!
Mary – Here’s the latest – he sent me two emails earlier this week which I chose to not read as they were at the beginning of the week. And then he actually CALLED on Wednesday evening. I read the emails afterward, and they said he was sorry for the heaartache, he missed me and he’d call me Wed, evening. Well, having NOT read them prior, I was not expecting the call and was defensive and had my walls up in preparation for the worse. More miscommunication mixed with is inability to tell me WHY he called and it ended with me hanging up on him. Oh yeah, he wished me a BELATED b-day. My b-day is at the END of July…11 days AFTER his. He was being cautious as well, I’m sure, but it was really up to him to tell me why he called rather than play off whatever vibes he was trying to get from me. The whole thing was a disaster. I tried to call him to apologize for hanging up on him but I had no intentions of the purpose of the call until AFTER I hung and then rad the emails. Now we’re back to square one – he won’t answer my calls or respond to emails. So I congratulated him on his EFFORT (term used very loosely) and told him I was done with it all. I called and called and called and called for over two months – he made 1 phone call and he’s done. He has no understanding of the pain he has caused and no understanding that these things can not be resolved with one phone call. It all takes time and a lot of tears. He doesn’t get that it’s a prcoess. He thinks one phone call and I should have melted and we’d put it behind us (his solutions to everything). Oh well, life goes on.
wait – what happened with the ex that you re-connected with?
Mary – I’ve tried to contact him to apologize for hanging up on him – but he’s right back to avoid and ignore. So, in short, nothing has happened. ONE phone call was apparently all he had in him. I guess he did’t want it bad enough. Hey, no risk no reward, right? I risked so much of myself – he’s risked ZILCH. That’s all I know.
I just wanted to see if anyone has started to see any changes since venus is turning direct. Does anyone have any updates?
I am cancer sun dating cancer sun. We’ve been off & on for about 18 months and in mid march he instigated us getting back together. He declared his undying love, blah, blah. Jump to beginning of June he started to pull back, eventually said he need some space. He stopped calling & talking to me for several days & was very mean when I did speak to him. My bday was last week and he hardly acknowledged it. When I asked him what was going on he told me I needed to move on.
We are talking now but its not the same. He doesnt tell me he loves me anymore. All of this happened in about a week and half but feels like a year. Will things begin to lighten up now that Venus is going direct or should all the resolution have already happened?
i dont think its meant to happen overnight, it will probably start coming together in the next few days or weeks.
I’ve seen nothing (see my comment above). I’ve had ZERO contact from him and no explanation for a break-up after 4+ years. I have been hanging on to the hope that after Venus starts its move (looking at July 2 forward) maybe something positive will happen. I did mail a card today asking for resolution or even a courteous acknowledgment, but he’s not responded to my phone calls or emails requesting the same, so I’m not holding out too much hope. Starting to concentrate on healing myself…slow, painful process. Ugh!! I’ll let you know if anytghin happens in the next week or so. Best of luck to you!
Warning – Run on sentence follows! But it’s a serious question.
I’m also considering this…if I’ve been in a committed relationship with a grown man for 4+ years and we’ve been discussing a future together and he shuts off communication completely like this…no rhyme or reason and breaks my heart and makes me totally batshit crazy trying to figure out what the heck happened…do I really want to continue to be with him in the unlikely event he pulls his head out of his rearend as Venus begins her move and he realizes that I’m the best thing since sliced bread? Do I? God help me, I’d probably go back for more. WHY???
I would wait and see what his explanation is. I know the feeling, craziness & heartbreak. I wouldn’t decide whether or not to get back with him until he is ready to come back & communicate what turmoil he experienced. Then make your decision.
I think the “WHY” part of your question is what we are supposed to be working on about ourselves during this time.
Thank you for the response – always good to get perspective from others. Some people think he WILL contact me at some point but honestly, I don’t expect to ever hear from him again. Sadly. He has serious communication issues and will NEVER face any emotional issue. I’m really beginning to work on myself now. There is a saying that I love and must try to remember…”The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.” So true. I need to work on silencing the what-ifs and could be’s…and deal with reality day by day, little by little, just making myself stronger. I do know the pain will eventually subside. Right now I feel like it’s breaking me…but I know better. I would have preferred some very definite closure to an open ended departure that keeps me hanging on to hope. I will be happy when I do get strong enough to let go of the hope all by myself. And then I will smile. Thx again and I hope your situation gets better, too. The not knowing is so difficult!
I understand your pain. Even though my relationship isn’t even half of how long yours was… but it’s just as painful. My guy was loving and affectionate, and I was able to trust him enough to tear down my wall, and this wall that had built up for quite a long time. And as soon as I tore it down, he went off the radar. He was completely detached and aloof. And when I tried talking to him (key word: talking, not even confronting), He said to me he had been doing things he wasn’t exactly fond of coz he felt like he had to, just to keep my happy. Indirectly telling me that I’ve been needy and that I’m suffocating him. He was punishing me for things I didn’t even do – for things he did on his own, but pointed his fingers on me. It was devastating. So you know what – my wall was built right back up and I didn’t initiate any conversations (this is a long distance relationship too, by the way). He would go missing for a few days, then decided to talk to me, and would go off the radar again. And during this whole venus rx period, I’m starting to realize that I don’t want to be with someone like that. Even if he comes back to his normal self now that venus is direct, I don’t want him as much anymore. I don’t even want to talk to him really, and I am the one going off the radar at times. It’s not a revenge, nothing like that. It’s just that I realize that maybe, at the end, I don’t really want him all that much. I just want that feeling of being loved, of being with someone, of being protected… that’s not much to ask, is it? And if he can’t even do that, then what’s the point? Maybe this is what venus rx is all about – it’s about finding yourself, and knowing what you want and go about getting it; weeding out the bad and shaking off those who are not good for you. Can you imagine him doing that to you again? Who knows what’s going to happen? If he did it once, he could do it again… because he knows you’ll take him back no matter what, and that puts you in too vulnerable of a position. And for me, like I said before – I lost the trust in him. He’s not cheating, so it’s not like that. But I don’t trust that he will always be around. I don’t trust that he won’t ever disappear on me again. I don’t trust that he won’t go through his off the radar period. Like we all said in this discussion – It’s okay to take time off, we understand – but at least let us know. To just completely run off without any communication is just plain selfish and immature. Do we really want to be with someone like that? Do we really want to be with someone who would only look you up when he feels like it, or when it’s convenient for him? What about my needs and my life and what’s convenient for me?
Thanks, Daisy! So much of what you’ve said resonates with me. I was neither pushy nor suffocating. I was not jealous or clingy. He actually took time off to go live in another state for several months but assured me prior to leaving that we were good. I do not think he was cheating (some may think I’m nuts – but I really don’t) – but in any case, when you walk away from a lengthy relationship, regardless of the reason, you should be mature enough and thoughtful enough to communicate that to the other party. His actions have been very selfish, and you’re right, I don’t want to go through this hellish pain ever again. It really is such incredibly cruel, juvenile and rude behavior. I like your statement about the real purpose of the Venus Rx – finding ourselves! Getting rid of the people in our lives that our really holding us back from healthy, happy lives. And I have made many concessions and excuses for his crappy behavior. He really is going through a rough spot himself…his dad just had open heart surgery, his renters stopped paying so he had to have them evicted, biz is bad so he claims to be facing financial disaster. I have gotten to the point where I can NOT continue to say it’s okay for me to come AFTER everything else. I should be by his side helping him through his tough times just as I’d want him by mine if I was facing similar issues. I want to be a priority in someone’s life! I want to feel important. I do NOT want to be convenient! I deserve more and so do you! It’s in the getting there that’s tough. Like I said – day by day. Baby steps to a healthier life!! No, we really don’t want to be with someone like that – we want to be loved and cared about. I am sorry you’re going through similar pain. We know it will end. And this helps. I journal a lot – and then later on…often months or years, I’ll read what I wrote and realize how pathetic I was – and then I burn them! I also blog – it helps get the crap out! I’m not so sure I want him back at all…but some closure would have been nice. It would have been the adult thing to do. Best wishes to you. I hope to hear how you’re doing in the near future…and I hope it’s good. Thx again!!
And just to be clear…his silence pushed me into moments of pure unadulterated craziness! (Crazy-making at its finest.) I burned through voicemails and emails like nobody’s business. I did the yelling and pleading and crying and that pathetic BS because the silence was driving me nuts…quite literally. Yeah, I know that never solves anything – I reacted poorly. I finally have a lid on that! Thank God!!! I felt like he led me to the edge of a cliff, pushed me over the side, watched me plummet, and then turned and walked away without so much as a “Watch that last step.” So the reactionary part is done for now. I pray for no relapses – it’s pretty damned embarrassing! Seriously – I would leave like 3 in a row…pure mad-woman. I get WHY he doesn’t want to answer those calls – I wouldn’t either – but he does not see how he had a hand in getting me to that point. Yeah, I don’t really want that drama in my life – it’s draining as hell.
Hey…
Been single since August 2010, in fact made a decision to stop dating and wanted nothing to do with men ever! because of the hurt i felt when i broke up with my ex. The break up affected in such a way that i couldn’t have fun anymore, my skin changed had terrible acne on my face and back and lost weight too which made me feel less attractive, i was just miserable and deppressed for like eight months until i realized that being angry is actually not healthy and i need to start dealing with reality, convinced myself that we were just not meant to be together and he is not coming back to me. We lived in the same area and whenever we bumped into each other it was like we were strangers, until i moved in February 2012 went to varsity started a new life with new people, improved lifestyle and having a good time. He called me for the first time two weeks into April i was shocked he still had my number, he’s too proud to admit that he was wrong though and did not try to explain anything he has an ego problem. Since then he’s been calling me just to check if i’m doing well and we meet every now and then to catch up and have fun together, we haven’t talked about our break up didn’t even touch the topic, but i can see that he’s trying to make up for what he has done through his efforts to make me happy now i told him i’m glad that that we’re talking again but thats all i won’t be taking him back as lover me and him are just good friends now and i don’t know what the future holds for us. SO VENUS RX HAS DONE IT FOR ME AND I’M HAPPY. Goodluck to all of you and focus on yourselves more to be happy and content so that even when he/she comes back to you it must be a bonus to your fabulous life! It took me almost two years don’t let it be like that for you, don’t make it hard for yourselves.
Wow… amazing reading these stories… a lover from 26 years ago came back into my life last year, disrupting a marriage of 22 years… I threw my hat into the ring for LOVE, and we reconnected over the past nine months – only to have it result in a stillbirth. We’re both in our 50s, can you believe, and I feel like I’m back in junior high
He broke up on the 27th (last week) via text, telling me I’m better off with my husband. Classic. So yes, I think it’s ALL about learning to love ourselves, letting go of the illusion of a twinflame (in my case, anyway), and trying to find wholeness through another. We must be whole ourselves… and Diane, I sympathise entirely with the madness of a seduced woman scenes! Cringe-worthy, aren’t they? 
Scary! Deep breaths. Heartbreak will heal. I will be whole. Alone.
o my god… I had the same history, mi gril friend break up with me, we erer really in love one sunday and 3 days after she couldnt explain either… just she stopped to feel a relathionship with me… she sayd… its like…”"”"” one day I saw fireworks with u and suddenly I see nothing , so sorry… in three days I am clear I dnt wanna to be with u, my feelings are there but the ilusion to have a relathion with u is gone.. “
My birthday was may 15 and my soul mate (who was going through some tough times) was the only one I didn’t hear from. We emailed shortly at the beginning of may and hadn’t heard from him until 12:40am on June 28th! He called and we have been chatting ever since! He said that the last 2 months had been crazy for him but he needed to go through it. Not sure what this means for us, but am hoping this works out. Any thoughts?
Find the dates of Venus so fitting!
thats great hes been in contact – if only i could say the same for my guy…
@ Candice – I guess he’s been working on getting an ex out his system?
@ Lisa – This week could be interesting… I’m not holding my breath but the new me is prepared.
I hope people report back.
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same here J – i just hope the new me is prepared. i have been through enough in the past 6 months that almost lead to a breakdown. the least that could happen is some positive breakthrough.
Lisa – I nearly had a breakdown as well. Had to dig very deep to hold it together. So many tears..it was uncontrollable at times and I was inconsolable. I’ve started journaling…big time. It does help me. Gets a lot of it out – you cannot keep it inside. It’s not healthy. Best wishes to you. Concentrate on the beauty of you!
I hope we all have good news. I’m really not holding onto much hope any longer but will ride it out. He hasn’t spoken to me in 2 months as of today – no word as to why or what happened, no explanation, nothing…I know he’s going through some rough times – but anyone with character will do the right thing as opposed to the easy thing. We’ll see. Best wishes to all.
ive stopped holding out for anything as well. i know it said between july 2-15 it should all come to a climax, especially on the 5th but i really doubt that could happen for everyone here. too ambiguous.
Lisa – I totally agree with you. My guy (he is no longer) is immature and unable to communicate, Retrograde or not. He’s selfish, self-absorbed, and narcissistic. His ego has gotten in the way of “us” before and his solution is always to run away…to his parents, to Wyoming, wherever. He’s going to be 53 in a few weeks. Never been married. Red flags were everywhere. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. There will NOT be a third time. I’m going through some serious anger right now, but will work through it. I left a few emotion-filled emails last night – I’m done. Worn out! He was my lover and my best friend. You know the old saying…with friends like that, who needs enemies. But even an enemy wouldn’t have treated me so poorly and with such a lack of respect for my feelings and well-being. Time for me. Reawakening, rediscovery…finding ME again. I’ll be happier for it in the long run. What will come to a climax between the 2nd and 15th will be my sense of dignity…and I welcome that back! Karma works in mysterious ways. We’ll all be fine – it’s just in the getting there that we go through some pain that we think is unbearable. But we’re stronger than we think.
I dont really believe in astrology but this article and the dates in it fits perfectly to what happened in my love life lately.
In the last week of February, I met a guy who seemed to be perfect for me. He was gentle, caring, we could spend hours talking and stuff. Our sex life was great as well. It looked like a perfect match, and we fell in love with eachother. (Im a Scorpio and he’s a Libra)
There were many obstacles though. First of all, he was gonna move to another country in April 1st and he didnt plan to come back for years. He had a terrible marriage in the past and divorced so he was terrified of getting married again (he is 30 by the way, he got married when he was 25).
Before he moved, we have talked about the future of our relationship and decided not to break up. I was gonna visit him once a month and he was gonna visit me once a month so we could see eachother in every two weeks. We did what we promised and until May 27th everything was going well. On Saturday May 26th, he went out with his new friends and he texted me later that night from the bar “Im socializing and having fun but I still miss you as hell, wish you were here”. On the next day (cursed May 27th) i received and email from him: “This is the hardest thing I’ve ever written. I woke up with a girl this morning and because of alcohol and my weakness, I lost the love of my life. This is the first time I’m crying after a woman. Find someone that deserves you and be happy!”
I couldnt believe what i read, i was mad, devastated, pure craziness. I couldt sleep a bit and cried until morning. In the morning i called him on Skype, he cried, i cried and i said that I was gonna try to forgive him. So we continued, but I was a bit drawn apart from him. And i might have behaved a little paranoid as well (who wouldnt??) A month later on June 25th, he told me he wanted to break up cuz it was too frustrating for him to miss me for 2 weeks and bla bla (insert a lot of excuses here)What kind of an unstable personality is this?? And i feel miserable for still being sorry for a guy like this. Venus retro or not, none of us deserves this kind of cruelty.
Well that was my humble retro story… Cheers and blessings to you all =)
Oh and to those who are having a hard time in the healing process, I recommend a book: 2150 A.D. Its a bestseller macro-philosophy novel which has given me a great insight, peace and happiness when i read it for the first time (8 years ago and i still remember the details)
This is the most memorable quote from the book: “The measure of the mind’s evolution is it’s acceptance of the unacceptable” Looks like we all need to evolve a bit here =)
Cheers!
Here’s my update…if you can call it that. Not really much has changed we’ve talked but all superficial. I have given up hope though. I have had several breakdowns like other people, so you are not alone.
I have a question for those better versed in astrology. I read in other posts that Cancers are going through transformation. I am a cancer (1st decan) and he is also (3rd) we have both retreated to our shells. I am still heartbroken but dont see how to repair this. He missed my bday and it looks like I will not be invitred to his.
Interesting side note about Venus retro & past loves…this is our 2nd go at a relationship. We got back together officially before retrograde. so I wondered if this was just a lesson. Well after retrograde we still hit the fan, an ex girlfriend (abt 5 years ago), now friend & talk occasionally, (havent in nearly a year) called him and asked to meet up to catch up. This is what ultimately led to our split, he said she was just a friend, I should trust him, etc. A week after it he ended things I saw recent texts from her that she loved him & wanted to be togther forever but was getting tired of him rejecting her, He didnt seem interested. I think they have been hanging out and this is kinda why I have given up. I also think he may be talking to her more to distract him from me (he has done that before). I wonder about both of us and Venus retro and old loves coming back.
Sorry for long post.
I can’t speak for any other Cancers, nor can I speak from an Astrology-educated point of view. Just my own point of view based on my own experience…my Cancer was just that…a cancer. He sucked the life out of me with his broken promises and inability to follow through and his constant running away. Still having a hard time but I am continuing to work hard on me and moving forward. Do I miss him? Yes. Do I wish he’d provided a bit of closure…um, would have been helpful. But all of these problems will continue to be his, not mine. I would have stood by his side and helped him through all of his troubles. He apparently doesn’t want my help. It’s now been over 2 months with out a word – and 1 month with no contact at all. I know he’s still taking care of pressing personal stuff – but his lack of decency is unacceptable and inexcusable. I’ve said it before, decent people simply do not treat people poorly. Period. I’m really tired of making excuses nd concessions for his bad behavior. In time, we will all move forward to better places.
2 1/2 years ago I told him to go find somebody better. He was back in a 6 months and we stayed together for 2 1/2 years. The problem isn’t me – it’s him. I wish him the best of luck in his neverending search for perfection. It’s futile.
Hi, my partner and I where perfect the 1st part of the year up untill mid June when I can’t explain what happened, he became distant from me and eventually last week he moved out of our home to live back with his parents. I am a libra and he is a Taurus, he is normally quiet stubborn and keeps his feelings too himself but on friday he decided he wanted to end it with me ad he feels he loves me more as a fridnd, but then he changed his mind and said he can’t understand how he is feeling he thinks maybe it’s a phase he is going through and is unsure what he wants.. Then he changed his mind again and said he is scared of getting hurt! Am so confused as I don’t understand what he wants at all. I am beginning to think that he is scared of commitment and I am not at fault in this relationship, I feel like I have been punished for being a good women too my man.
I went too see a clairvoyant on Thursday last week and she told me he is mixed up at the mo and needs some space, he loves me and will come bk too me, but am slowly loosing faith in that.
Is it true that if you go through a breakup during V,Rex there is no chance of reconciliation? We broke up on the 4th July but this in Venus direct. Do we have a chance of patching things up? Am so Hirt I feel I have lost my soul mate & love of my life.
Is it true that if u go through a break
Hey darling, i know exactly how you are feeling it’s bloody horrible ! I’m going through the same sort of thing.. I’m a sagittarius he is a leo, we were not going out, but we had a secret sort of relationship we would chill every day but never say our true feelings, but i feel i have inbuilt pyschic powers & I just know when someone likes me..and he would see me nearly everyday for 2 years or so .. but suddenly around mid may he stopped talking to me, i tried to open to communication lines, but that went no where.. then I got soo frustrated that i deleted him off facebook ( Stupid I know but I couldnt deal with seeing him online and not talking to me, just pretending im non existant.. it hurt!!) now about 2 and a half months after i did that, he still hasn’t bothered with me.. but i can’t get him out of my head.. I wake up hes there.. I eat.. he’s there.. go for a walk.. hes there.. work.. hes there.. going out.. he’s there.. now im totally confused and because i have taurus rising i just can’t seem to let him go.. it’s more of me being stubborn i just can’t accept it.. A few nights ago I had a dream we kissed but he left me, so now i feel more stupid and my ego is making me stay there because I hate losing.. what I’m trying to say is, I’m going through the exact same thing, I feel like giving up .. but thats just not natural .. In the end we will both be 1. victorious or 2. heartbroken for a while then find someone else !, keep your head up, try not to think about it and hopefully things unfold naturally.. best of luck to you
Hey, today I seen him for the 1st time in 3 weeks and he told me he still loves me but can’t see us getting married, although it Hurt me I handed my engagement ring back and sobbed. I think seeing him today was closure and I feel I can finally let go and move on. I love him with all my heart and although I would love for him to come home and we patch things up, I feel it’s not what I want. He told me it’s not me it’s him with makes me wonder… I feel today, after a whole month of heart ache I can move on. As hard as it’s been time is a healer & I do believe nature will take it’s cause. I deserve better.
Thanks Brooke. X
I do not agree that Retrograde Venus Conjunct Aldebaran is favorable for marriage. My experience this year is that the conjunction is favorable for a divorce or separation initiated by the female partner that catches the other partner by surprise.
May 15th was the last time I saw my ex-lover. She apparently was seeing other men behind my back.
Around June 16th my neighbors wife of 27 years left him and took their daughter while he was at work.
Around July 9th as I write my friends daughter is literally escaping her controlling husband and fleeing Costa Rica with her children.
And Katie Holmes is divorcing Tom Cruise for a celebrity example….! I can’t say I noticed web positive things around my friends either, so many break ups!
Sharing of affectionate thoughts – peaking around the 5th. Well i finally got confirmation that my ex had moved on and broken up with me without telling me and meeting someone else whom even he says he isnt really going to go out with on the 4th of July. I sent a very emotional reply to his text that morning and it took him 36 hours and as he put it, time to think and re read my message for him to reply which I got on the 5th…! i guess there was some resolution around tension, affectionate sharing of thoughts? i guess in a way. he found out that i got a job in his city and the reason we broke up was because of distance. all congratulations on the job etc etc. why take 36 hours to reply to that lol. feeling a bit crappy that you broke up with me and now im actually moving to your city? i certainly hope so!!
Elle,
Through lots of reading up on Venus retro, they say that any relationship started now wnot last and will only possibly be a fling. I think mine ex has met someone else which will explain the distant a little more.
I know how ur feeling it’s a painful process but don’t let it get the better of you.
Alex x
Well I have had no contact from my ex since Friday last week, although it’s only a few days I am feeling a little bit stronger. I still love him & want to get back together with him.Still confused to wether breaking up on the 5th July during Venus direct there will be no chance of reconciliation? Can anybody tell me if there has be any chance of patching things up during direct or will it be a better time to try after the 31st of July!…
He was distant with me through mid June and moved back to his parents house during this difficult time, although he told me he couldn’t understand why he was being distant I couldn’t help blaming myself, Venus rx has highlighted that the problem didn’t lie with me but it lay with him. He is scared of commitment!!!.. He told me he still loves me and it’s killing him deciding wether he wants to have a future with me.
We have broken up once before during last yr and managed to sort rungs out last November. I am libra and he it Taurus so this Venus rx has defo hit us hard as she is our ruling planet.OUCH…:((
Is there any chance of reconciliation between us as we broke up in Venus direct?
X
my exhusband checked my profile on 27thjune during last phase of venus retro after 16years wonder whether it is positive sign.will he ever come back to me.
Every aspect of Venus in retrograde came out in my life. On 4/28 I met an old friend… possible soulmate of previous life… the romance was intense and extreme…
in june i wanted to leave my husband of 20 years for this fling… on 6/16 he begs to see a marriage counselor.. on 7/5 I told my husband I wanted him dead!… now that was the height of pain for him… and then on 7/6 we make up and I now see the old friend was nothing but a fling.
wow I am sure glad I did not soley base my decisions on feelings… venus dragged me through a mess of love emotions. crazy! I will surely keep my eyes open on 12/2013 when it re3trogrades again.
So here’s my question…what about those people who are experiencing the same relationship problems but they don’t read about astrology. They don’t know how to handle what’s happening or what is changing in their life. Does the universe push them into the right direction? Does the universe make the changes happen in their lives that need to occur? These past couple of months have been difficult for me, and I have been reading about what to expect and how to handle the changes. What happens to those who don’t know?
Good question Kate. Once I started learning astrology it gave me a better understanding of “why” things were happening to me, so I felt more comfortable about things. That’s the difference I guess. If we can get an idea of the reasons things happens then I guess we can cope a little better. Not sure if we can ever change our fate based on this knowledge though.
Hi Jamie, so you’re saying that undertanding by gaining knowledge of what is happening is key to coping with the changes. But knowing or not knowing, fate/destiny happens regardless out of our control. The only benefit to having the understanding of the events is that it can soften the blow of what the universe is bring our way. Is that right?
I don’t think your life is not in your control but the universe will certainly force themes/situations/experiences on you. Through astrology you can have a better idea of why this happens and with that knowledge you can make a more informed decision on how to respond/react. You may not be in control of what the universe throws at you, but you own your response to it.
Good point, I agree.
hi my husband left me in march off this year 2012 to a girl that broke up our family do u see any chance off us getting back together in this retrogarde before summer ends? is this possible? like he ran from this marriage and kids says he wants a decorice.
i always get STD during venus retro
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Hey. I’ve been in a long distance relationship since June 28th of 2010 (I’m a Virgo he’s a Picies) and though we’ve had issues we have a great connection. Come March things crumbled. He left for a bit cutting off communication but came back with Sorries saying he’s been needing space to think things out. He stayed for a bit before proofing again and came back, proofed, came back and recently proofed on June 30th (reading other comments this seems to be a bad date area). I haven’t heard from him since but he’s been telling me he needs serious thinking time but last time he came back I yelled at him for being to rude and hurting me so I half suspect I drove him away this time. When he disappeared it wasn’t me but rather him taking a breath plus he’s told me so many times he loves me and has gone to desperate lengths to be with me. I meditated on it and communicated with his subconscious and he says he’s coming back plus a friend (who’s a psychic) told me it won’t be too long before he comes back but my ego has been strongly shaken. Do you think my friend was right? Once Venus leaves retro will it all be ok? I know for a fact he’d never leave me but…a fellow friend, almost a sister, hurt me deeply and left entirely. I guess I fear that’ll happen but I trust my friend. I’m pretty new to astrology but do believe in it. What do you guys think? Will he come back come August?
I wish I had an answer for you. I am desperately seeking my own. Mine left (long distance) in November and things were okay until the end of April. Heard almost nothing (no phone calls, and sporadic emails) for 2 1/2 months. I had been calling and emailing asking for some resolution and getting nothing. Then, about 2 weeks ago I got some emails that I chose not to open because it was the beginning of my work week. And then out of the blue he called. The phone call was not good! He was testing the waters andI had very high walls and was a bit defensive. He got pissy and I hung up on him. THEN I read the emails. He missed me and was sorry and wanted to work things out. Well, he never said that in the phone call. I tried to call back and he was right back to refusing to answer the phone. He didn’t answer the phone for two weeks. Then I got another email telling me he did not love me and to stop calling. He said he wished he did because it would make life easier (WTH?). He also said that I could not MAKE him love me. How insulting! We’ve been together 4 1/2 years! He told me he loved me, that we had a future, blah, blah blah.
I also think I pushed him further away by being brutally honest. I told him in emails that he was immature and rude and cruel. I did leave angry voicemails. He tried ONE time to make amends. And then ran away again. I do NOT believe he does not love me…we just get along too well and have too many things in common, etc. But now that he’s told me that – I MUST move on. I have gone through too much pain. I am really going through some intense pain. He broke up with me via EMAIL!! And I have so many questions and since he won’t talk to me, I’ll NEVER get them. One day I will be fine again. I hope you will be too, Mila.
I did that (with the brute honesty) I see him online all the time and ignoring my messages. The one hope I have is I left a voicemail telling him to please post something online if he got it cause he hadn’t been online. The next day he posted something and has been lately. I think it’s his way of letting me know he’s ok. I’m clinging to July 31st like crazy because this retrograde schedule has been dead accurate. He’s done this on and off for months so I have no reason to think hell be gone forever. Again… My fears stem from my old friend. I left her a quick message saying “hey there was a cameo of a character you like here you may wanna check it out” and she bluntly told me “never contact me again” and it was that day onward I was scared my bf would do that to me as well. My psychic friend has told me hell come back and it’s all ok but… My depression and anxiety are too quick to act up. I need to stick to logic cause I feel myself wanting to jump out my skin screaming and crying but I left him texts, voicemails and online messages stating how sorry I was and I realized my mistake and he’s never once shut someone out of his life out of anger permanently. He’s… Well in no offense towards him he’s not one to stick with his choices he makes. He says he’s coming visit but he doesn’t. He says hell never leave he doesn’t. He says he despises his parents then loves them. He’s a bit of a broken mess.. But I stepped on the broken pieces and hurt him probably even if that’s not why he left its still a fault of mine. Gods I hear that old friend of mine in the back of my head. It’s infecting my faith in him because each and every time he’s come back to me.
Mila,
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Sounds very similar to what I’m going through. The feelings of anxiety and jumping out of my skin are at times overwhelming. The voicemails and emails I have left that go unanswered are so painful. The depression is awful. (But I’ve lost weight…yay.) I have given him everything so much of myself that I need to get it back and move on. It’s been an awful process. I know in my heart that I will NEVER hear fom him again so I must concentrate on me. I do not believe he doesn’t love me – I think he’s terrified of commitment. That, combined with the poor financial decisions he’s made recently, are probably making him want to shut everyone out. I liked your comment about thinking with logic. It sounds so easy, but then the fears and emotions take over. I am trying to get over this. Not easy to do. I never loved anyone likeI love him. But if says he doesn’t love me, there is nothing more I can do. I have to respect what he has FINALLY told me. Sorry it took him 4 1/2 years to figure it out. Best wishes to you.
hi diane,
just an update – you know miraculously, as soon as venus went direct, my boy has now been back to how he was before. he was attentive, engaging, funny… just like how he was before, if not, even better. BUT… yes, there’s the but. BUT, i don’t feel the same anymore. i still would not initiate any conversation, i keep him at a distance… i’m still my usual self, caring, funny, easy to talk to. but i’m not as attentive anymore. i act like i care, but to be honest with you, i don’t. as an aries, he can NOT talk to me for a few days, and for me to not feel a thing?… that’s not good. i’m not jealous… not even when he told me he just hired the girl he had a fling with way back in the day. i laughed at him and i teased him, but i don’t feel anything. my usual self would be angry with rage the moment he brought it up. but NOTHING. i guess, like i said before… my wall is up. and i don’t trust him. as in i don’t trust him to not pull that crap on me again. so i’m very defensive. i can’t be bothered. i don’t trust him to flake on me again.
i guess it’s time for me to let him go. when you lose the passion, or when you lose that urge to be close to someone, then the relationship is pretty much non-existent, right?
- daisy
Hi Daisy,
Interesting how life is, isn’t it? I went through too much with this guy. He has more issues than I can tell you or that I care to deal with. Breaking up with someone in an email is cowardly (and very junior high!). He’s 53 years old. I have started therapy to figure out why I allowed him to be like this towards me – I could have and should have walked away long ago. He’s just a man, after all. And not one with the integrity I thought he had. But bottom line…no matter how crappy he behaved throughout the relationship towards me (especially towards the end), I allowed it. I want to make sure I never allow anyone to treat me so disrespectfully again. No reason for it. I do deserve so much more. “His loss” sounds so cliche, but it’s true. And I’ll be better off in the long run. No more head games or heartache. Time is a great healer.
Best to you Daisy!!
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Check this out. I am in a polyamorus relationship with a trans woman I’ve been with over 30 years. During the Venus retrograde, I broke up with my very beloved boyfriend of 10 months. He, too, had become distant. I believe this did have something to do with the influence of his other partner, his ex-wife. My partner’s girlfriend of 8 years broke up with her. And I came very close to telling my primary partner I wanted to move out and get a divorce. We’ve put a hold on that until this freaking retrograde is over! Thank Goddess we’re almost there!
Sparkle Yoni
Hi there:)
I don’t know how but while searching for articles on venus retrograde I landed on your article. this one is really helpful.
I remembered when retrograde started I came very close to an old friend and was about to get into a relstionship but then I held myself back, thinking that I should let retrograde pass and then see, if I still wanna be with him. and then on 19th july he again spoke about relationship. Things are going good. it feels like he is everything I ever wanted or wished for but I still wanna know if this is a venus retrograde effect on me? is it gonna end once venus takes off it’s shadow? something does feel like it’s karmic. I am a leo by zodiac and he is an Aquarius- opposite signs, have heard relationships are difficult. could you please advice? it would be really helpful. thanks:)
Love and Light!
Oh, I truly need this for December. The healing is good-
I have just found your blog and it has brought everything that has happened to me recently into focus.
My partner of 35 years has told me that he has fallen out of love with me and. This happened in late January 2013 but I have discovered that he has been having an ‘affair’ with a much younger woman for some time. They met in mid-May 2102 and began to text each other constantly. He says that it is not a sexual relationship but I suspect that it is fairly raunchy with texting and e-mailing. Could this relationship be a passing fancy or have I lost him for good? I am trying to get on with my life but as we work together in the family business it is very difficult and he has not even given me an explanation as to why this happened. I am not very knowledgeable on astrology but it seems everything changed during the Venus in Retrograde period of 2012 and this my have some bearing on the turn of events.
Hope you can give me some guidance or closure.